@mimoko87
Im disabled and chronically ill. Can't work can't study. Stuck living with my parents. It sucks and I definitely feel a lot of jealousy towards my friends who are living alone, in relationships, getting degrees and starting their careers, but that is MY PROBLEM. That's not their concern, that's something I have to work through. I can't force everyone to stop living their lives just because I'm struggling
@theblackrosedaughter
This is gonna eventually turn into a "Why wont she talk to us?" situation.
@hollieweller7051
The parents behavior is negatively impacting their disabled daughter's mental health. She isnt allowed to use any coping mechanisms and is having unneeded strain put on her relationship with her sister. Yes, she might be jealous or might reflect about wishing she could have those things, but with the way the parents treat, it becomes an immediate reaction. She could he excited, but then sees her parents immediately lament that she can't have those things, and then she feels guilty herself. It is probably preventing her from things like relationships and jobs and joys.
@olmecsunshine868
The sister might be resentful to the parents as well for believing that her life is over because of her accident. The sister's frustrations can be a result of the parents and spouse limiting her and not listening to anything she has to say. She probably feels trapped in her situation. Not because of the chair, but because of the people around her who sees it as a cage and a means to control her. OP should talk to her sister. Her sister probably wants to hear all the good things that is happening in her life
@DemetrioPradoGruñón
"Don't share; you'll upset your sister" "OK, I won't" proceeds to get married and doesn't invite the sister or the parents. 4 years and a baby later: "OMG!!!! You're married AND have a child?? WHy did you never tell us?!!??"
@danielwozniak8411
Negativity breeds negativity. Positivity breeds positivity.
@Morgan24_7
I wouldn't say another word, I'd just do what I wanted to do and take all my wins in silence.
@jenniferatkinson5519
People with disabilities need the happy news😊
@TaylaltAichaManou
she's ur sister, if she truly loved u she would be happy for u
@Piper195
Sister (and parents too) need therapy if they are not getting it already. It's sad and tragic that something bad happened to her but life goes on, especially for other people. They are going to live their lives, which will be full of happiness, achievement, and success as well as disappointment, failures, and sadness. She needs to let people live their lives, feeling what they feel instead of expecting everyone to halt their lives to grieve for her tragedy.
@nimisilverbird1239
Nta. Her situation isn't your fault. Screw them all
@ShadyShadow98
I wouldn't tell them about anything else if you get pregnant I would just not tell them if you get married and have a wedding I wouldn't invite or tell them. If they say anything about it just say "you wouldn't have come or appreciated it anyway, since you appreciate my sister more."
@aoiaxure
That's also bad for the disabled daughter. Doing that reminds her that she can't do any of those things, and will also station her relationship with her sister
@Cyannidimon
If my 3 little brothers had to suffer through living quietly or miserably and never sharing their happy moments because of my own suffering and pain then i would hate myself even more. Why on earth would it make sense that if 1 person is in pain then everyone has to be??
@niharikashukla407
One word answer. Therapy.
@stefanharris659
You all need to talk about things and probably family and individual therapy
@baewuxian
I have something opposite to this, I tend to hide my achievements cause my brother has some issues because of which he has to hold back from doing things, my parents encourage me to share and celebrate but I just feel really guilty
@JemmaT-g7r
This feels like my life when I lived with my bio dad
@kimsmith1746
Yeah, at least there is an excuse. I have a half sister, who uses anyone's good fortune to make herself the victim. She is her own worst enemy but will never admit to it.
@slPen-tx3fl